Strengthen bonds with friends and family.
多多与朋友和家人联系。
Research has repeatedly shown what most of us instinctually know: the quality of our relationships that determines a large share of our happiness and overall life satisfaction. Taking time to re-connect with those close to you in a meaningful way can pay profound emotional dividends.
研究已经反复地显示,我们大多数人本能地知道:人际关系的特性决定了我们要大量地分享快乐和生活中的满意。花时间重新联系那些对你有意义的、和你关系好的人,这样做可以带来深刻情感回报。
Create a sense of distance from your challenges.
创造距离感,远离你的挑战。
与朋友建立紧密的纽带很有益,同样地,创造一个距离感使我们远离麻烦也能给我们带来很大帮助。通常情况下,我们的想法会使我们连同自己的感受一并卷入麻烦之中。你并不是自己的麻烦。你比那些麻烦更有力量,它们只是运用力量凌驾于你的情绪和你的自我意识之上,从某种程度上说,你默许了它们这样做。
Try this thought experiment: If you could step back and look at your challenges as an objective observer, would they seem different, perhaps less overwhelming? If you were to give a friend advice on them, what would that advice be? These mental devices can drain some of the power and scope from the problems you’re facing. They are able to be defeated, and they can only dominate and define you if you allow them to.
尝试一下这个思维实验:如果你可以后退一步,像个客观的局外人来看待你面临的挑战,它们会有什么不同吗?也许它并没有那么难以应对?如果你像朋友那样给出建议,那么你会提出什么样的建议呢?这些苦思冥想的对策可以减少你所面临的问题带来的威胁,并且缩小问题的范围。它们能够被打败,并且,如果你允许,它们也可以支配你,定义你。
Create something great.
创造一些好的事情。 Summer can be a great time to start a project. Whether it’s learning a new language or a crafty endeavor, as long as it’s achievable and enjoyable, go ahead and throw yourself into it.
夏天是开启一个项目的最佳时间。不管是学习一门新的语言,还是做一些灵巧的尝试,只要目标是可以达到的,并且能够享受其中,你就勇往直前,沉浸其中吧。
Force yourself to slow down a bit and learn to center yourself. Disconnect. Spend some moments in quiet contemplation. While you’re at it, cultivate that peaceful feeling of just “being”.
强迫自己慢下来,学着集中精力,切断电话。花一些时间静静地思考。当你静心思考时,培养“当下”那种平和的感觉。
It’s tough making changes, and if you find yourself halfway through the year with little progress on those New Years Resolutions, all is not lost. Put aside some time and space to outline a sensible, logical plan to begin tackling that list. Just starting can begin to generate that necessary momentum, and sometimes planning how to begin is enough of a plan to begin with.
做出改变是很难的,如果你发现在过去的半年里,新年伊始时写下的决心毫无进展,并不等于完蛋。留出一些时间和空间概述一个明智的、有逻辑的计划来应对清单上的问题。仅仅是开始行动就能产生必要的动力,并且有时候计划如何开始就已经足够。