Is your child's stubborness a success trait?
孩子身上的倔强是一个成功的特点吗？
Posted Dec 22, 2015
“I’m not going to school”
“我不去学校”
“I won’t wear those socks”
“我不穿这些袜子”
“I’m not going to bed”
“我不去睡觉”
Such are the sayings from stubborn children. They get stuck on something, and refuse to budge. Logic doesn’t matter either. For example, Chris at age 8, refuses to wear socks despite the fact he lives in Minot, North Dakota and the temperature is 15 degrees. Of course, this is a parenting challenge but not an impossible one.
这些话都是从倔强的孩子嘴里说出来的。他们执着于某些事情，并且拒绝改变。讲道理也不管用。比如，查尔斯8岁，尽管他住在迈诺特市（迈诺特市位于北达科他州，温度只有15度）但他拒绝穿袜子。当然，这对于家长来说是一个挑战，但是也不是不可能完成。
Despite these obstacles there is an upside to raising a stubborn child. They stay with problems longer than their counterparts (thus finding answers!), stick with what they know is true (less likely to succumb to peer pressure) and are more likely to advocate for themselves (eventually earning top dollar compared to their peers). Some of these points were highlighted in a recent scientific study brought to people’s attention by Time Magazine.
尽管有这些困难，但都是抚养一个倔强的孩子的正面困难。他们的这种问题持续的时间要比同龄人长（然后才会发现答案！），坚持认为他们知道的是真的（而不会屈服于来自同辈的压力）并且更可能提倡他们自己的想法（最后和同辈相比也会挣得更多的钱）。最近在时代周刊上发表的一项科学研究中强调了这一点，吸引了人们的目光。
Specifically, this study reported that strong-willed children later in life were found to:
特别值得一提的是，这项研究报告说在这些坚持己见的孩子的晚年生活中发现：
Become educational over-achievers
成为学术上的非凡成就者
High income adults
收入很高的成年人
Said differently, the same quality that drives parents “crazy” when it comes out as defiance or denial can actually be a good thing. These kids can use their strong-willed nature to learn how to focus, pursue their educational goals, hone a craft and create a prosperous life. Of course, this is a welcome news to many exhausted adults.
也有不同的说法，当提到反抗或拒绝实际上是一件好事时，同样的品质也会把爹妈“逼疯”。这些孩子可以利用他们坚持己见的天性去学习如何集中注意力、如何追求他们学业上的目标、如何磨练一项技艺以及如何创造一个幸福的生活。当然，这对许多筋疲力尽的成年人来说是一个很好的消息。
Stay Positive
保持积极乐观
Raising a strong-willed child can be challenging to say the least, but once they learn how to harness this as a force for good sky is the limit. There has been no innovation, breakthrough or great achievement on this planet that didn’t require an incredible level of stick-with-it-ness that stubborn children have in spades. Surely, Einstein or Edison challenged their parents with their persistent nature but with time, and effort it become one of their greatest assets. The same can be true for your son or daughter but in the meantime, take heart that their stubbornness is actually a trait of success.
最后要说的是抚养一个坚持己见的孩子是很有挑战的，但是一旦他们学会如何像控制其他力量一样控制坚持己见，那么大好前程也就有限了。如果这个星球上没有创新、突破或者更伟大的成就，也就不需要这些倔强的孩子拥有不可思议地高度的坚持。当然，爱因斯坦和爱迪生用他们自己执着的品质挑战着自己的父母，但是随着时间的流逝和不断的努力这些品质最终就成了他们最伟大的财富。对于你的儿子和女儿也是如此，但是与此同时，令人宽慰的是他们的倔强真的是一种成功的品质。